Does the ‘Perfect’ One actually exist?

This is the question that I would like to blog about today in view of my previous entry and also the upcoming Valentine’s Day in 17 more days…

So how do you define the ‘Perfect’ one and is there only ‘One’ person? People got this ‘false’ impression about looking for the ‘Perfect’ one a.k.a ‘Mr Right’ and it’s very prevalent among girls who are still ‘Single’ today. That is the no.1 reason why they are still ‘Single’. They keep on waiting for the day that their ‘Prince’ charming would suddenly appear at their doorstep, riding on a horseback and asking them for their hand in marriage. (I believe the girl would be too scared instead of accepting the proposal) A very good example in today’s context is probably a guy driving a very ‘posh’ vehicle to ask the girl out for a date. Even some guys do look for such a ‘Perfect’ person and I must admit I was a victim myself. Such kinda thoughts can only be attributed to the media like TV esp. dramas. And it’s a known fact that girls like to watch dramas esp. those romance kind.

A ‘Perfect’ person is someone who complements you in every single way. This person shares the same likings as you, have the same goals in life as you etc… Another term for it is probably ‘Soulmate’. You can talk to each other about almost anything under the Sun. So does this person actually exist and is there only one or more than one person? Yes, I agree that there do exist such a person but I dun agree that there is only ‘One’ such person. If you think that there is only ‘One’, then I think you are seriously shortchanging yourself. The world’s population at present is around 6 Billion. Do you actually think that there’s only ‘One’ person outta these 6 Billion people that you can choose from? Although we are only ‘allow’ to marry one person, that doesnt mean that we cant date more than one person. It’s a process of ‘trial and error’ until the day you hit on the ‘right’ one. If there’s only ‘One’ Perfect person, there wont be any ‘breakups’ in today’s world.

When people go into a relationship, in their mind they would think: “Oh, I have found the ‘Perfect’ one and so we are going to live happily ever after.” This is what I would term as ‘Blinded by Love’. Girls are very susceptible to it and when they are finally ‘awaken’, they will discover that everything is but a dream. When you are blinded by love, your mind is taken over by your heart so it’s impossible for you to think rationally thus leading you to make the wrong choice. Alright, so what if you managed to find the ‘Right’ one and eventually got married, does that mean that it will be ‘Perfect till death do us part’?

What I’m trying to say is that there is no such thing as the ‘Perfect’ one. People needa stop looking for the ‘Perfect’ one and start being the ‘Mr/Ms Right’ for that someone else instead. Most people go into a relationship hoping that it will solve their ‘loneliness’, that it will make them complete but the fact is that it doesnt. You can still be as lonely although you might be with your loved one. People also needa know how to live happily and enjoy life as a Single before committing to a relationship. They needa live life as a ‘Whole’ person, not ‘Half’ a person. That’s where the idea of opposite half comes from. It’s very irresponsible to go into a relationship and burdening the other person with your emotional baggage. Yes, it’s true that couples should share every happiness and sadness together but I think that it shouldnt be burdensome to the other party. A person enters the life of another person in a relationship to add value, not to subtract from it. The true meaning of love is about giving, about sacrificing and not so much about receiving.

The idea about the ‘Perfect’ one is all flawed and only exist in movies, dramas and fairy tales. At the end of the day, it’s all about accepting each other’s flaws and learning to live with it. Girls always have this idea of trying to change their BF, in the hope that one day their BF will become ‘good’. It’s impossible! They tot that love can change everything but no, it doesnt or not long-lasting. The day that they walk down the aisle with that person, that is the person that you are going to live with for the rest of your life.

~ by livingthedream on January 28, 2007.